Sunday, 1 March 2009


Hello Groovers,
Thank you all for your mails wondering where I'd gone to. Well, nowhere really. We've been busy socially and away for the past two weekends, but to be to be honest, my creative juices had dried up. In turn it put me off reading my fellow bloggers journal's............. Sorry guys.
This weekend was going to be a weekend of catching up with journals, washing, cleaning, bill paying etc but the Friday before last I got a call from Phil's 90 year Mum Florrie

'Is that you boy?' 
'Um yeah Flo, wassup?' 
'Well, instead of you coming to see me next time, can I come and stay with you?' 
'Ummmm, yeah ok, what's the problem?' 
'Oh nuffin, no it doesn't matter'
'Well it does Flo, cos if you don't tell me I can't come over and pick you up ok?'
'Well....... pauses, I'm lonely'
Oh my God, it was like someone shoving a knife in me, I felt so bad.

Last October, she fell over putting her milk bottles out, yeah, we still have milk delivered here. 
She shattered her hip, smashed all her face in and broke her arm in four places. We were on holiday at the time but fortunately, Phil's brother was at hand so she wasn't alone for long.

Since that time, we go and see her regularly and also took her to my folks at Christmas.  She does get visitors everyday, but who say's you can't still be lonely huh? That's a bad state of mind to be in.

I promised to go pick her up to stay this weekend just to get her out and see something different.
When I told Phil, he went mad and said he couldn't afford to take time off work. No problem, I'll pick her up and take care of her, we'll have a good old fashioned Mum and son in law bonding sesh, a girly weekend!

I was up at 5 am on Saturday morning to drive over to hers and then bought her all the way back home. We went shopping and I let her choose what she wanted to have for lunch today, then we walked the mall singing doing the Lambeth walk. I swear people thought we'd been let out of the nut house. By the time we got back, I was just as exhausted as she was.
To see that old girl smile and laugh the way she has warmed the cockles of my heart, I realized it's gonna come to us all eventually. 
Yesterday afternoon she had a little kip and last night I cooked dinner for her and we sat and watched the film she'd picked. I am Legend with the hunky Will Smith (unghhh) 
Why she picked that I don't know but I suspect he does the same for her as he does for me ;-)

She talked all the way through the bloody film and then screamed out everytime a mutant came on the scene, by the time the film had finished, we'd both filled our knickers three times with fright lolol.

I put her to bed at 10.30, weary and tired myself I fell asleep on the couch then dragged my sorry arse up stairs about midnight. 
Phil came in at 6 a.m. and I was up to make him a cuppa to take to bed with him.
That's when he dropped the bomb shell. 

'What time are you running my Mum home tonight?' he asked.
'Ummm, I was hoping that you could take her back so I can have a bit of me time and catch up with a few things?'
His parting words were 'you invited her up for the weekend, I didn't. So you can take her back home too'

With that, he picked up his tea and went to bed.
I can't repeat what what I said under my breath, but he's right, I did ask her up, so tonight I'll take her home and then drive all the way back. 

Then when I finish hacking my husbands miserable moaning body to bits with a rusty chainsaw, I'll clean up and watch the Desperate House wives episode I've taped with a nice glass of wine.

Love ya. PP xxxxxx


Marie said...

So great to hear from you this morning Gaz!! You are such a sweet son in law! I bet Flo loves you to bits! I think being lonely is worse than anything, even worse than not being loved. People can be lonely in a crowd. Lonely is the saddest place to be. You are such a wonderful lad to treat your MIL this weekend and you will be blessed for doing so. I kinda suspect that you already have been. Doing the Lambeth Walk eh? Just wonderful! XXOO
PS I miss you when you don't pop up once in a while!

Anonymous said...

I've missed you. Ok, I got a few emails, but I am just realizing what I missed was:

when I finish hacking my husbands miserable moaning body to bits with a rusty chainsaw, I'll clean up and watch the Desperate House wives episode I've taped with a nice glass of wine.

HaHaHaHaHa. No one else says it quite as well as you do. Also, you know how near to my heart this topic is...~Mary ooxoxo

LYN said...




Lazarai said...

Awwwww, you are so sweet, Gaz!! Flo is lucky you married into her family, that's for sure. I have missed your unique way of putting things - I can so relate to the "hacking" feeling, too. LOL Although sometimes it's my MIL at the other end of the chainsaw.

Have a great Sunday,

Amy said...

I love taking Jesse's mom out and about, too....because we both need a nap around the same time. LOL

Hee....Phil. It'll be like a Shawn Of The Dead sequel.

Anonymous said...

I was in MK all weekend and I did see some nutty bloke and an old lady singing songs!
Not really. I did see some bloke drop a bottle of wine outside the M&S at the train station though.
Was that you?
Were you wasted?

Indigo said...

I would of picked Flo up too after that phone call. Your husband is a mite brute isn't he? Sounds like you had an enjoyable visit with the divine miss. As for us bloggers, yes...we miss you. But it's understandable at times life gets in the way of any online participation. Doesn't mean we don't still love you. (Hugs)Indigo

Char said...

Ahh, I want a son-in-law like you! So sweet of you to do that. Trust me, getting old can really suck sometimes. And, loneliness is a terribly ache that just cripples you.

Yasmin said...

Hiya stranger.

Glad you had a great visit with Flo seems like with you she can be herself, would loved to have seen you both singing the Lambeth Walk did you do the dance as,
Enjoy your wine.

Take care


Leigh said...

It's good to see you here.

You're a good man, Charlie Brown! I'll bet Flo just loved the time with you. Working with the elderly, I understand that kind of loneliness very well.

:) Leigh

p.s. If you hack Phil up with a rusty chain saw, you'll have a big mess to clean up!

Silverdoe said...

Can I borrow your chainsaw??

So glad to see you back...and that you haven't changed!!!

Anonymous said...

OH MY GOD..... What a WANKER your man is.....


He should cherish his mother while shes still here.... Not just be like UGH SHES COMING ugh!

Hell I love spending time with my mother on her off days sometimes :) Its moments like that you have to cherish because shes about to be 50 and shes got alot of health problems... I try to cherish all those moments....

--- Christopher


Ally Lifewithally said...

Flo is so Lucky to have you ~ Ally x

Sheria said...

Your juices may have dried up but you are still hot! Oh, you meant your creative juices! Sorry, I can't help it; I have a gutter mind.

I know that your mother-in-law had a wonderful time wtih you and that your company meant the world to her.

Perhaps you could gently remind Phil that there will come a time when he will wish desperately for an opportunity to visit with his mom. I speak from experience.

Keep beign lovable and your jusices will never dry up! What, you thought that I could just let that statement pass?

marti said...

you are such an adorable man!

Gillie said...

Glad to see a post from you and that all is well. You are a good man. Hope the Mr. appreciates the jewel you are (and not just the jewels you have...tee hee!!)

Jayne said...

Awwwwww Flo sounds like a wonderful woman. She reminds me of the nans i never had. I can remember going to my grandads years ago and going to a local pub, when kids were allowed in, they had an old joanna in the corner and played roll out the barrell, lambeth walk and numerous others, they certainly give you a feeling of community not like the sorry state we live in these days...... ho hum.
I could give you a hug myself for being such a wonderful, caring,lovely person and making an old lady happy,bless you.
There is nothing worse than being lonely..... you dont know where to turn or to who.
Take care
hugs Jayne x